Life Will Give You Lemons: Bad Things Happen

Make the best out of even the worst circumstances. As the saying goes, “When life gives you lemons you make lemonade”. It’s inevitable that bad things happen in your lives. From the time we learn to walk, we have been making lemonade with our lemons. Each time we fell and got up again to walk is an example of learning from our mistakes or shortcomings. Imagine that even now, you get up again as you did when you were a baby. You get up and learn from your failures because it is your natural instinct to survive. Imagine you can do so much more when you are purposeful in your getting up and overcoming.  This blog is for those of us who are having challenges getting up after falling.


Make Lemonade: Find An Outlet

Recently one of the great stories of triumph over a tragic situation is the shootings in many schools across America. These are tragic and horrific moments, yet many groups of young people have used this as a platform to stand up and fight for the world they deserve.  Amidst the pain from the loss of their schoolmates and teachers students stood up and started a movement against the National Rifle Association and the United States Government. Of course it may have been easier to not start a movement, to sit quietly and wait for change. Instead these students from Parkland, Florida started a movement that became a national movement against gun violence. They found a way to  cope with an awful situation.  Other example of coping when bad things happen is of couples who are unable to conceive children and in turn become foster parents or adopt multiple children. What are some experiences which left you feeling vulnerable? Let’s take depression for example, in my sister Brittani’s case she blogged about her depression in Depression: My Story.  Brittani used her negative experience to enlighten and uplift others who are experiencing depression. There is power in your pain.


When Bad Things Happen Use the Experience to Triumph

Despite the pain and suffering you may experience you can always find an outlet to turn things around. In order to begin this process you must change your perspective and not see yourself as a victim. Bad things will certainly happen in life,  but how will you use these experiences. When Dr. Maya Angelou who was raped as a child and wrote “I Know Why the Caged bird Sings”. When Oprah Winfrey was fired from her job as a reporter for being “unfit for TV” she used her experience and became a hugely popular daytime TV host and a millionaire at the age of 32, with her own talk show. So don’t let your pain be the end of your story!  Instead, when bad things happen to you, or life doesn’t go your way, look outside yourself.  Get determined to learn from what you experienced and find a way to help someone never experience what you have experienced.  When bad thing happen in your life, ask yourself what did you learn and how can you move forward using that lesson. Your efforts do not have to be a movement or a book or a tv talk show. You will make your own lemonade and it will be enough.


If you suffer from severe mental illness or thoughts of suicide I want to encourage you to seek help today. Find a local therapist or contact the National Suicide Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255 or texting “START” to 741-741. A trained therapist can provide you with a diagnosis and help you develop an appropriate treatment plan. 

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Meet the Author

Adenike is a 46-year-old Jamaican immigrant and a devoted single mother of one, whom she raised with a village in the absence of the father whom long aborted his responsibilities. She holds a Masters in Licensed Clinical Social Work, Bachelors in Social Work, Masters in Non-Profit & Association Management and a Licensed Practical Nursing degree.  From the outside, you wouldn’t know that behind the many accomplishments are experiences of trauma, PTSD and depression. Her experiences have uniquely shaped her and she has learned to appreciate each and every part of who she is and her journey. Now she wants to inspire you to do the same!


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