Hey sis, it has been so long since I have been able to really chat with you. I know I wrote last year about taking a hiatus because I was feeling overwhelmed by life. I was hoping to end that hiatus last June and get back into the flow of blogging, but life didn’t happen that way. Currently, I am in a season of transition currently coupled with busyness and high anxiety. This season of life has left me feeling burnt out lately, which made blogging difficult to keep up with. This time of my life has really helped me to value rest and reflection. In this blog, I want to share what I am learning about how to find balance in your life when feeling overwhelmed.
How to Know that it’s Time to Find Balance in Your Life
As I mentioned in a previous blog I have become very busy with work over the past year. Outside of work, last year I challenged myself to socialize more, volunteer and to earn extra income side hustling. The combination of so much added to my plate had really left me with little to give to the blog. In addition to this, I am so proud to say that Adenike also has paused blogging to go back to school for counseling. I am so proud, but managing a blog alone while working full-time is HARD. Especially with my extreme desire to have a blog as amazing as everyone else’s (cue the comparison monster).
Outside of the busyness that life has tossed my way, I have also been facing many emotional battles. Last year, my living situation stripped away so much of my peace and exponentially contributed to my anxiety. Between work and home, I was feeling overwhelmed, unvalued, unheard and confused. Those feelings consumed my thoughts and controlled my emotions. I so desperately just wanted to vanish and check-out of my life for even a moment of reprieve from my reality. This was so scary because of my past experiences of feeling suicidal and depressed. Watching my anxiety and depression rise up and overwhelm me was so difficult. I was so afraid that those feelings invalidated my progress. This is when I realized how important it is to find balance in your life to cope with feeling overwhelmed.
Make Changes that Help You Feel Less Overwhelmed
I know that I am at a healed place in my life because, compared to my past, this experience made me reflective rather than destructive. This experience made me challenge myself rather than give up on myself. This experience also made my vision for this blog clear and more realistic. Not everything in life will bring us happiness, peace or joy, but knowing what does can help you find balance in your life. It is so important to use difficult moments to identify what needs to be added to or subtracted from your life to help restore our joy, peace, and happiness. Personally, I have identified that my emotions were revealing my bodies need for rest and change. At the end of last year, I conceded to my body’s needs. I took a break from most of my side hustling, I found a new place to live, accepted a job offer and went on a needed vacation. I am also re-evaluating how I will be spending my non-work time moving forward. Next is reevaluating what type of work environment I need to help me thrive and achieve balance.
Prioritize Yourself and Your Needs
Life can throw stressful changes at you, but feel empowered to make changes that help you find your balance. If you need less social time to focus on you this is ok. Spend quality alone so that you have energy for what important in your life. Set boundaries with others in your life. Setting boundaries make it easier to prioritize yourself. Whether you it’s saying no to a request or not checking emails on your down time, let other know your needs and boundaries. Lastly just give yourself grace. You may be struggling to balance all life’s demands, and may make a few mistakes or slack at practicing self-care. In those moments choose to have grace with yourself. Life is already hard enough, there is no reason for you to be hard on yourself as well.
This brings me full circle from my blogging hiatus to have a clear vision for this blog. This blog is something I do out of passion and purpose. Passion for helping women the way I needed help and purpose for using the pain I have overcome to help others. I do not want this passion project to contribute to me feeling overwhelmed. To achieve this, I have realized that I need to ditch perfection, ditch strategy, and just blog. I want to openly share the things in my life that have given me joy, peace, and happiness (my faith, financial discipline, cognitive behavioral therapy and more). I also want to transparently share the pain that I had to endure, overcome and reflect in order to grow. As I make room for restoration of the joy, peace and happiness peace in my life I know it will help create room for me to better invest in this passion.
Find the Help you Need to Find Balance in Your Life
As always, this is only my personal experience and what has worked best for me. However,I truly believe there is hope for every unique situation, even yours. If you suffer from severe mental illness or thoughts of suicide I want to encourage you to seek help today. Find a local therapist or contact the National Suicide Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255 or texting “START” to 741-741. A trained therapist can provide you with a diagnosis and help you develop an appropriate treatment plan. Until next time, I want to close by challenging you to really tap into the reflection and the rest you need to overcome the low you are currently experiencing sis. Then I want you to see how you can use it for a purpose greater than yourself.
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