Hey sis! I hope 2019 has been a year of healing and becoming your best self. I know that for me this year has been quite a whirlwind. I have been slowly, but surely adjusting to my new job, my two new roommates and the bitter sting of grief. One of my favorite readers reached out to me this past summer during the redesign of the blog and asked me to write a blog on life transitions. I am not an expert on the subject, but this past year has truly graced me with wisdom on the subject. My hope is that this blog will help you to master the art of dealing with life changes.
The Fear of Dealing with Life Changes
Dealing with life changes and transitions can create fear and anxiety due to uncertainty. As creatures of habit, we like to know exactly what to expect and hate being caught off guard. So whether it is a positive or negative change, it can be overwhelming giving up the comfort of routine for the unknown. If the change is forced or traumatic, this may add a dimension of deep emotional pain and loss. This truth can make dealing with life changes an overwhelming experience. Thankfully, whether it a positive or negative life transition, the right support, and life hacks can help you thrive during your season of transition.
The Key to Dealing with Life Changes Gracefully
Life is marked by many forms of transitions. I can clearly remember my transitions of becoming a high schooler, a college student and now a “real adult”. I can also remember the in-between transitions of moving from state to state, losing loved ones and the end of relationships. Each of these transitions has tested my strength and faith. These transitions have also molded me into a stronger, more capable woman. I have learned that a few things are essential for dealing with life changes gracefully.
1. Cultivate and Confide in Your Support System
Whether you are facing an amazing yet unfamiliar new experience or unexpected heartache, having a support system is essential. I use to isolate myself emotionally and be very reluctant about expressing my feelings to others. This would heighten fears, ruminating thoughts, and cause me to feel alone. Through therapy, I have learned to better express my emotions. I have also identified who in my life I feel the safest opening up to. It is essential that you let your emotions out, and let your support system in.
2. Lean into Your Faith
Faith is a core value in my life. My relationship with God reminds me that my worth is not defined by the pain or failure I will experience in life. I am also reminded that God is bigger than any problem I face and that he only allows situations into my life that will be used for my good and the good of others. These truths help me to confidently face the unknown of dealing with life changes. I lean into my faith through conversational prayer with God, bible reading plans and staying connected to the encouragement of other believers.
3. Develop a Self-Care Routine
Dealing with life changes can completely throw off your usual routines. For me transitioning to a new job meant a new work schedule and responsibilities. It has taken a full year for me to learn how to master a social life, prayer life, and volunteer life while navigating this new schedule. In the midst of this, I also dealt with the loss of my grandmother. The shock of this loss made me fall into a depressive episode and I lost interest in my daily routine. During difficuly transitions, it is important to have a core self-care routine to help ground you. My self-care routines includes simple meal prep, getting unplugged and getting plugged into my faith. Getting unplugged is so important because it allows me to reflect, reacharge and re-prioritize. I do this by taking breaks from oversocializing, overcommitting and taking a break from social media.
As always, this is only my personal experience and what has worked best for me. However, I truly believe there is hope for every unique situation, even yours. If you suffer from severe mental illness or thoughts of suicide I want to encourage you to seek help today. Find a local therapist or contact the National Suicide Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255 or texting “START” to 741-741. A trained therapist can provide you with a diagnosis and help you develop an appropriate treatment plan.
Thank you to my valued reader Sade for requesting this blog post. If there is a life situation you are interested in me sharing advice on, please comment below. I read each comment and truly want to be able to support and encourage you. Before you leave please also share your experience dealing with life transitions. What works for you may help others find a solution that works for them. Also, please share this post because you never know who in your circle may be struggling and may need to read this post for encouragement.
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